You saw the red flags.
But your body stayed hooked.
That's what keeps the pattern alive
A structured psychological framework that explains why you got pulled in, restores confidence in your judgement, and helps you choose differently next time.
Not sure yet? Scroll to see what’s inside. 💡
Created by domestic abuse & behavioural psychology specialist
and
Founder of The Healthy Relationship Company
Eve Howe-Robinson
Why intelligent, capable women get hooked
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You’re wired to empathise.
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You assume good intent.
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You give people the benefit of the doubt.
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You override early discomfort because you don’t want to overreact.
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You explain away inconsistencies.
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You take responsibility for keeping things calm.
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You normalise doing more emotional work than the other person.
It’s how you were taught to survive relationships.
If you’ve ever thought:
“Why did my relationship affect me like this and how do I stop it happening again?”
- this is for you.
This isn’t a breakup course.
And it isn’t a confidence boost.
The Relationship Reality Check (RRC) is a psychology-led process for women who were not naïve, not reckless, and not “bad at relationships” - but who found themselves destabilised inside one.
Women who were solid everywhere else.
But became anxious, restrained, and less like themselves in their relationships.
It's embarrassing to admit but I literally assess risk for a living… and I couldn’t make sense of my own relationship.
Eve explained it in a way that didn’t make me feel stupid.
I feel calm about it now. That’s new.
— Laura, 36
INTRODUCING
THE RELATIONSHIP REALITY CHECK
Your journey to clarity, confidence, and healthy love - one steady step at a time.
Most programmes focus on how to move on.
RRC focuses on something more important:
What actually happened - psychologically - and how do you make sure it doesn’t happen again?
Understanding explains the past. Recalibration changes what happens next.
👉 I’m Ready For The Reality Check
What makes RRC different
Most relationship programmes rely on:
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communication tips
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attachment labels
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“healing” as a vague concept
RRC does something else.
It combines:
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forensic psychological clarity
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nervous system recalibration
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identity-based behaviour change
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and practical, reality-tested tools
So you don’t just understand what happened -
you rebuild your internal reference point for relationships.
This is not about fixing yourself.
It’s about getting accurate.
The transformation this work is designed to create
Women don’t leave RRC describing themselves as “empowered” or “healed”.
They say things like:
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“I trust myself again - without faking or forcing it.”
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“I don’t over-explain or self-edit anymore.”
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“I can see patterns early, without panic.”
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“I’m not attracted to chaos now - and I don’t miss it.”
That shift isn’t mindset.
It’s recalibration.
When your internal compass is restored:
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you stop replaying conversations at night
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calm stops feeling wrong - and starts feeling safe
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and you naturally choose relationships that are steady, mutual, and emotionally safe
Not because you’re vigilant. Because your nervous system knows what safety feels like again.
If any of this sounds familiar, you’re in the right place
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You replay the painful moments, wondering when things got so hard
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You left (or emotionally disengaged) but want to understand what happened
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You don’t trust your instincts the way you used to
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You’ve started worrying that you just have “bad taste” in partners
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You’re determined not to repeat the pattern - but don’t feel confident in your ability to judge character
There is nothing wrong with you.
There is, however, a very specific psychological explanation for why this affected you the way it did - and why insight alone doesn’t always resolve it.
That’s what RRC is designed to work through.
👉 I’m Ready For The Reality Check
PHASE 1
CLARITY & UNDERSTANDING:
Reveal & Regulate Your Reality
Before change, there must be understanding. This phase dismantles confusion, self-blame, and the fog that keeps people second-guessing themselves.
In Phase 1, you’ll start where most people never do - with clarity rooted in evidence and understanding.
You’ll stop asking “did I imagine it?” or “was it really that bad?” and instead begin to see patterns clearly, without shame or distortion.
We look at what actually happened, how your nervous system adapted to the stress, and why awareness alone wasn’t enough to shift your internal experience.
By the end of this phase you’ll have:
• A deep-dive understanding into what occurred and why it affected you so profoundly.
• The language to explain your experience to yourself (and others) without shame.
• Tools to calm nervous system reactivity and reduce confusion.
• A clear psychological map explaining your reactions - so you stop punishing yourself internally.
Module 1 - REVEAL
Module 2 - REGULATE
PHASE 2
REFRAMING & DISCERNMENT
Reframe Your Story & Decide Your Next Step
The difference between knowledge and internal belief is meaning. In this phase we turn understanding into insight - the kind that rewires perspective.
In Phase 2, you move from understanding what happened to deciding what it means - and what you want now.
We start by looking clearly at the behaviour itself - patterns of entitlement, inconsistency, manipulation, and responsibility-shifting - and the wider social messages that normalise emotional labour, power imbalance, and misogyny.
Then we explore how you adapted within that relationship.
You stop asking what this says about you, and begin recognising what you were responding to.
This is where blame lands in the right place.
And that’s what allows you to move from survival mode into choice mode.
By the end of Phase 2 you’ll:
• Understand what was yours - and what was never your responsibility.
• Recognise patterns of entitlement and emotional labour clearly.
• Separate your identity from someone else’s behaviour.
• See manipulation and power dynamics without minimising them.
• Decide what you want - and what you don’t - without self-doubt driving the process.
Module 3 - REFRAME
Module 4 - DECIDE
PHASE 3
BEHAVIOUR & IDENTITY
Reinforce, Rewrite & Integrate Your Transformation
Clarity without integration is temporary change. This phase seals new patterns into your nervous system and identity.
Phase 3 is where transformation becomes lived experience. You’ll take everything you’ve uncovered, recalibrated, and decided - and make it lasting. This isn’t surface change. This is internal restructuring.
You’ll anchor new ways of thinking and responding, strengthen healthy boundaries within yourself, rebuild confidence from the inside out, and connect your insights to everyday life - so old cycles lose their grip.
By the end of Phase 3 you’ll:
• Embed new psychological patterns into everyday reality.
• Reinforce resilience and emotional regulation.
• Rewire harmful internal narratives into empowered ones.
• Walk away with a coherent internal story grounded in truth, choice, and self-trust.
Module 5 - REINFORCE
Module 6 - REWRITE
Module 7 - INTEGRATE
WHAT YOU GET
This isn’t just content.
It’s a structured clarity process.
🎧 In-depth video or audio lessons
📘 The Path to Change Journal™️
🧠 Psychology-led tools
60-Day Pop-Up Community (Launch Bonus)
🤖 Clara - The RRC Custom GPT
🔓 Lifetime Access + Future Updates
Self-paced. Designed for nervous system safety.
Steady, not intense.
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How RRC Works
RRC is primarily self-paced and pre-recorded.
Each module is delivered in both video and audio format, so you can move through the material in a way that suits your life.
However, it isn’t designed to be binged.
Modules are released weekly to allow integration, reflection, and behavioural change - not just understanding.
Alongside the course content, you’ll have access to a live, moderated 60-day community space.
This is where discussion, support, and deeper integration happen in real time.
We open and close doors for each cohort so everyone begins together and moves through the process at the same pace.
This creates structure, containment, and a genuine sense of shared progression - rather than isolated consumption.
HEY, I'M EVE!
I’m the founder of The Healthy Relationship Company - and I specialise in helping intelligent, capable women untangle confusing, emotionally destabilising relationship patterns.
I’m a domestic abuse specialist with a background in psychology, and I’ve spent years working with women whose relationships destabilised and deconstructed their sense of self - even when everything else in their life looked fine.
Through frontline work, risk assessment, and behavioural analysis, I kept seeing the same pattern:
capable women becoming more anxious, more careful, and less like themselves inside relationships that didn’t look obviously harmful from the outside.
What was missing wasn’t strength or insight.
It was accurate understanding of how these dynamics actually work - and how they train people to override their instincts over time.
This work is built from that gap.
From real psychology.
From real relationships.
And from a commitment to clarity over coping.
This isn’t about becoming hyper-vigilant.
It’s about being able to relax into your own judgement again.
WHO THIS IS FOR
RRC is for you if:
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You want clarity, not reassurance
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You’re done repeating patterns
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You value evidence over hype
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You want relationships that feel calm, equal, and emotionally safe
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You’re ready to rebuild trust in yourself - properly
It’s not for you if you’re looking for:
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quick fixes
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diagnosis labels
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someone to tell you what to do
A note on safety
RRC is not designed for people in immediate crisis or high-risk situations.
If you’re currently unsafe, specialist support is essential - and always encouraged.
This course is about recovery, clarity, and rebuilding.
Ready to begin?
You don’t need total certainty. You just need to recognise yourself here.
Without developing the skills, most women don’t repeat the same partner.
They repeat the same cycle - anxious, overthinking, justifying, staying too long - with someone new.
You don’t need another relationship.
You need a different pattern.
This is where you move from
“Why do I keep ending up here?”
to
“I choose differently now.”
👉 I’m Ready For The Reality Check
The women you’ll hear from below worked with me 1:1 using the same core framework that now forms The Relationship Reality Check.
I was still in the relationship when I started.
I didn’t want to be told to leave - I just wanted clarity.
Instead of pressure, I got understanding. I could see what was happening without spiralling.
The decision felt clear, not forced.
— Tiff, 28
I knew the red flags.
But knowing didn’t stop me going back.
What changed was finally understanding why I felt so attached. It wasn’t that I was naive - I just didn’t see the pattern I was in.
I stopped blaming myself and started making different decisions.
— Hannah, 34
I tried Clara with a real situation that had been going round in my head for weeks.
Seeing it laid out properly changed everything. It stopped feeling confusing and started feeling understandable.
It made things feel practical and relatable, not just theoretical.
— Sophie, 35
I was convinced I’d just keep repeating the same horrible relationships.
Eve helped me see what I was drawn to and why.
Now I’m with someone consistent and emotionally steady.
For the first time I’m not anxious about what’s about to go wrong.
— Emma, 33
What stood out was how structured it was.
We didn’t just talk about what happened - we worked through it step by step.
It felt contained, not overwhelming.
— Nina, 36
Before RRC:
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You know the red flags - but still feel pulled back in
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You explain their behaviour better than your own
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You question your instincts
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You confuse intensity with intimacy
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You feel uneasy when things are steady
- You reread old messages trying to work out what happened
- You stay months longer than you knew you should
After RRC:
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You understand exactly why you got hooked
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You stop overriding your own judgement
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You spot patterns early - and act on them
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Calm now feels safe
- You trust consistent behaviour over chemistry
- You don't make excuses for behaviour that hurts you.
- Your standards don’t move when someone challenges them
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You leave at month two instead of month twelve
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You choose differently on date 4, not month nine
You can keep analysing what happened.
Or you can become someone who no longer repeats it.
RRC isn’t just information.
It’s the structure that helps you stop overriding your own judgment - permanently.
What This Really Changes
♦️ How quickly you leave
♦️ Who you feel chemistry with
♦️ What you tolerate
♦️ How your body reacts to calm
♦️ The kind of partners you feel drawn to
The longer you stay in a confusing pattern, the more normal it feels.
Enrollment closes Sunday 1st March
We begin together on Monday 2nd March.
RRC runs as a structured cohort, doors close before we begin so everyone moves through the process at the same pace.
THE RELATIONSHIP REALITY CHECK
Get the first module Monday 2nd March
🔸 7 structured modules
🔸 The Path to Change Journal™
🔸 Clara (custom GPT clarity tool)
🔸 60-day moderated community
🔸 Launch bonus extras
🔸 Lifetime access + updates
30-DAY MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE
If you aren’t completely satisfied with your Relationship Reality Check course, let us know within the first 30-days for a full refund if you have not progressed beyond the first module. No questions asked.
