When we think about confidence-shattering relationships, most of us picture obvious put-downs, explosive arguments, or blatant control.

But in reality, the most damaging behaviours are often the quietest.
They don’t slam into you like a storm — they slip under the door like a draft, unnoticeable at...

You replay the arguments in your head.
You remember the moments they were kind.
And before you know it, the thought slips in:

“Maybe it wasn’t that bad.”

If you’ve ever found yourself downplaying a relationship’s harm — even one that left you drained, anxious, or questioning yourself — you’re not ...

 “I swear you said that.”

“No, I didn’t. You’re imagining things.”

It’s a conversation you’ve had before — and it leaves you rattled.
You know you remember it. You can hear their voice saying the words.
But when they deny it with such certainty… a crack of doubt sneaks in.

Maybe I did get it wron...

Hello to my healthy relationship friends!

Welcome to Love, Decoded

Breaking down the science and psychology of relationships.

You know how relationships can make us feel on top of the world one minute… and like we’ve completely lost ourselves the next?

You’re not imagining it — love can be compl...