“It’s Not the Drink”: Why Substances Don’t Cause Abuse abuse awareness coercive control domestic abuse emotional abuse healing after abuse relationship abuse relationship psychology self-trust substance misuse trauma and recovery Dec 21, 2025

 Alcohol and drugs do not cause abusive behaviour.
They reduce inhibition.

That distinction matters more than most people realise.

Substances can impair impulse control, emotional regulation, and social restraint. What they do not do is invent values, attitudes, or belief systems that were not alre...

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When You Know Better, But Old Patterns Still Show Up attachment emotional patterns emotional regulation healing after toxic relationships healthy relationships personal growth relationship insight relationship psychology relationship recovery self-trust Dec 20, 2025

Let's talk about why insight doesn’t instantly erase attachment, and how to live from clarity anyway.

When old relationship patterns still show up even though you understand what happened, it isn't because you're regressing or secretly unsure. It's because insight changes your thinking faster than ...

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Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners (Even When You Know Better) attachment theory emotional unavailability healing after abuse relationship patterns relationship psychology self-awareness toxic relationships trauma recovery Oct 23, 2025

Here's why your brain confuses emotional distance with chemistry - and how to finally change the pattern.

You promise yourself never again.

No more chasing mixed signals.
No more decoding cryptic texts or convincing yourself that “maybe they’re just busy.”

And yet… here you are again - overthinkin...

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