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Love, Decoded cover — “Why You Keep Thinking 'It Wasn't That Bad' After a Toxic Relationship" with subline “The psychology behind minimising abuse & how to reclaim your reality"
The “It Wasn’t That Bad” Trap – And Why It’s Hard to See the Truth abuse recovery minimisation self-doubt toxic relationships trauma Aug 11, 2025

You replay the arguments in your head.
You remember the moments they were kind.
And before you know it, the thought slips in:

“Maybe it wasn’t that bad.”

If you’ve ever found yourself downplaying a relationship’s harm — even one that left you drained, anxious, or questioning yourself — you’re not ...

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Eve Howe-Robinson

Founder: The Healthy Relationship Company

With a decade in psychology and domestic abuse intervention, I blend evidence, empathy, and lived experience to help you heal, grow, and build something better?

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