At some point after a harmful relationship ends, most people arrive at a version of the same question. It might surface at 2am, or in a conversation with a friend who's trying to understand, or just quietly in the background while you're getting on with your day. And the question is some version of:...
One of the most consistent things people say after leaving a psychologically harmful relationship is that they weren't sure - and often still aren't sure - whether what they experienced was "bad enough" to be called abuse.
Not because nothing happened, but because what happened was complicated. The...
She didnât think of herself as someone who struggled with relationships.
That was the uncomfortable part.
Her life, on paper, worked. She worked. People trusted her. She made decisions all day long and rarely questioned them. When something went wrong, she knew how to assess it, adjust, and move f...
After my last relationship ended, I couldnât even pick a programme on Netflix without spiralling.
Every decision felt loaded: what if I choose wrong? What if this is another mistake?
It sounds silly, doesnât it - crying over a remote control. But that moment told me everything I needed to know about...
 âI swear you said that.â
âNo, I didnât. Youâre imagining things.â
Itâs a conversation youâve had before - and it leaves you rattled.
You know you remember it. You can hear their voice saying the words.
But when they deny it with such certainty⌠a crack of doubt sneaks in.
Maybe I did get it wron...
