“It’s Not the Drink”: Why Substances Don’t Cause Abuse abuse awareness coercive control domestic abuse emotional abuse healing after abuse relationship abuse relationship psychology self-trust substance misuse trauma and recovery Dec 21, 2025

 Alcohol and drugs do not cause abusive behaviour.
They reduce inhibition.

That distinction matters more than most people realise.

Substances can impair impulse control, emotional regulation, and social restraint. What they do not do is invent values, attitudes, or belief systems that were not alre...

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Why It’s So Hard to Trust Yourself Again (Even When You Know Better) boundaries confidence emotional recovery gaslighting healing after abuse psychological healing rebuilding confidence relationship recovery self-awareness self-trust Nov 09, 2025

After my last relationship ended, I couldn’t even pick a programme on Netflix without spiralling.
Every decision felt loaded: what if I choose wrong? What if this is another mistake?

It sounds silly, doesn’t it - crying over a remote control. But that moment told me everything I needed to know about...

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Why We Mistake Intensity for Connection (and What Healthy Love Actually Feels Like) attachment theory connection emotional intensity healing after abuse healthy relationships love psychology nervous system regulation relationship patterns trauma bonding Nov 03, 2025

Here's why your brain confuses emotional highs with chemistry - and how to retrain it to recognise real connection instead.

We mistake intensity for connection because our brains equate emotional adrenaline - the rush of excitement, the quick heartbeat, the uncertainty - with love and chemistry.

B...

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Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners (Even When You Know Better) attachment theory emotional unavailability healing after abuse relationship patterns relationship psychology self-awareness toxic relationships trauma recovery Oct 23, 2025

Here's why your brain confuses emotional distance with chemistry - and how to finally change the pattern.

You promise yourself never again.

No more chasing mixed signals.
No more decoding cryptic texts or convincing yourself that “maybe they’re just busy.”

And yet… here you are again - overthinkin...

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