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Love, Decoded: Why We Mistake Intensity for Connection (and What Healthy Love Actually Feels Like) – Why your brain confuses emotional highs with chemistry and how to retrain it to recognise real connection instead.
Why We Mistake Intensity for Connection (and What Healthy Love Actually Feels Like) attachment theory connection emotional intensity healing after abuse healthy relationships love psychology nervous system regulation relationship patterns trauma bonding Nov 03, 2025

Here's why your brain confuses emotional highs with chemistry — and how to retrain it to recognise real connection instead.

We mistake intensity for connection because our brains equate emotional adrenaline — the rush of excitement, the quick heartbeat, the uncertainty — with love and chemistry.

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Love, Decoded: Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners (Even When You Know Better) – Why your brain confuses emotional distance with chemistry and how to finally change the pattern.
Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners (Even When You Know Better) attachment theory emotional unavailability healing after abuse relationship patterns relationship psychology self-awareness toxic relationships trauma recovery Oct 23, 2025

Here's why your brain confuses emotional distance with chemistry — and how to finally change the pattern.

You promise yourself never again.

No more chasing mixed signals.
No more decoding cryptic texts or convincing yourself that “maybe they’re just busy.”

And yet… here you are again — overthinkin...

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Eve Howe-Robinson

Founder: The Healthy Relationship Company

With a decade in psychology and domestic abuse intervention, I blend evidence, empathy, and lived experience to help you heal, grow, and build something better?

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