You're competent everywhere else. That's the part that never made sense.
You handle difficult people at work. Your friends come to you for advice, and it is good advice. You can spot when something is wrong in someone else's relationship from about three sentences into the story. Then you went home...
You meet someone new and within a few weeks the feeling is unmistakeable. The conversations feel charged, there's a pull you can't quite explain, and something about this person seems to match your frequency in a way the previous ones didn't. Several months later, you're somewhere familiar - monitor...
Why do I miss someone who hurt me - that's the question underneath almost everything in this post. You've left, or you've been out for a few months. You can see the relationship clearly enough - the pattern, the impact, what it cost you. You can articulate it. And yet your brain will
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If you've ever found yourself completely unable to move on from a relationship that you know, logically, wasn't good for you - this doesn't make you irrational or incapable of making good decisions. You're experiencing the predictable psychological aftermath of something very specific. That somethin...
