Why They Never Took Responsibility for Anything accountability in relationships blame shifting coercive control cognitive distortions criminogenic thinking emotional abuse externalisation he never admits he's wrong minimisation perpetrator psychology why does he blame me for everything why won't he take responsibility Sep 14, 2026

If they never took responsibility for anything, no matter how calmly or clearly or often you raised it, there's a reason for that, and it has nothing to do with how you communicated.

You'll have tried everything. The gentle version, the direct version, the version where you waited until things were...

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Accountability Distortion: Why the Apology Changed Nothing accountability distortion apology without change coercive control cognitive distortions do they really mean it emotional abuse entitlement intimate partner abuse perpetrator psychology will they change Aug 17, 2026

You got apologies. That's the part that makes this so hard to explain to anyone who wasn't there.

Some of them were good ones. They knew exactly what they'd done and named it. They looked genuinely upset about it. There may have been tears, or a long conversation that went past midnight, or a messa...

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